Hello!
I'm a journalist of one of the biggest Polish lefty-liberal weekly magazines "NIE": http://nie.com.pl I'd like to make an interview with your leader about pedophilia - and show our readers a different view on this topic. Are you interested? I can send the questions via e-mail or talk with you by phone.
Greetings,
Michal Marszal, "NIE" weekly
Pokusil jsem se mu tedy na jeho dotazy odpovědět:
1. What does the phrase "I am a pedophile” mean to you ?
It means, I am erotically attracted to children, it means I like children, It means I am happy with children, it means I sometimes fall in love with a child.
2. When did you realized that you are sexually attracted to children?
I was 20, It was the first time I fell in love with a 10 years old girl.
3. Did you have any sexual contacts with children? If so, how does it looked like?
No, I didn't have any sexual contacts with children.
4. What makes you sexually attracted to children?
I think, this is caused by pedophilia.
Is it about the age difference, different smell, innocence, gentleness?
It is not about the age difference, or smell, or something else. I think - you can compare what makes you sexually attracted to women (or men). I think you feel unintentionally, that you are sexually attracted to women (or men). And I also didn't make any decision that I will be attracted to children. It is something in my 'hardware', what makes me erotically attracted to children.
5. Do you feel sexually attracted to adults?
Yes, I feel some erotic attraction to some adult women, mainly those who looks naturally.
6. Do you feel lonely in your life? Does your family or friends or society turned away from you?
No, I have a few fullfilling friendships. Many friends know about me, my family knows about me, also my college at work and also my girlfriend. So I don't feel lonely.
7. Some time ago in Poland, the ruling party created an idea to carry out chemical castration of pedophiles. It would be devastating to the health of the child molester, but - as the politicians supposed – good for the health of society. What do you think about that kind of treatment to the pedophiles?
You mean chemical castration of people, who had molested a child? Please, strictly distinguish between the terms 'pedophile' and 'child molester'. Chemical castration of people, who are sexually attracted to children and didn't commited any crime againts children is nonsense.
8. Do you think that pedophilia is a sexual orientation rather than a psychological disorder?
I think that pedophilia really IS sexual orientation, and some sexologist also. It has all signs needed to clasify it as orientation. It is for the whole life of that person, pedophilia cannot be changed.
Do you think pedophilia should be legalized?
Pedophilia isn't crime, so it can't be legalized. Pedophilia is completely legal.
9. When you’re looking at children, do you you also divide them into attractive and unattractive? For example, thick brunette looks unattractive to you, but the blonde and thin look fabulous?
Yes, I think this is the same way, like it feels the most people.
10. In our society, much is said about the suffering of molested children and very little about the suffering of pedophiles. I imagine it this way, that suddenly Polsh law prohibits sex with women - and there’s no way I could realize my natural needs. Do you suffer as not being able to fulfill your desires?
No, I do not suffer from that at all. I can masturbate with my fantasies, and this is sufficient for me. I know, that I can't have sex with child, and I am contented with it.
12. What do you think about scandals of pedophile priests? Does the Church is an institution which promotes this type of phenomena or simply cases of pedophilia in the Church are louder because it is the Church?
Please, again, strictly distinguish between the terms 'pedophile' and 'child molester', and also between the terms 'pedophilia in the Church' and 'cases of child sexual abuse in the Church' . Many priests, who abused children, wasn't pedophiles. Sorry, because of the missuse of the term pedophilia I can't answer you question.
13. In prisons, pedophiles are beaten and raped, considered to be the lowest unit in the prison hierarchy. Modern European societies violates the human rights of pedophiles and stigmatizes a pedophile even after their exit from prison. Even more: if we assume that pedophilia is a kind of disease, pedophiles are punished for the fact that they are ill! What do you think about that?
Also in this question you don't distinguish between the terms 'pedophile' and 'child molester'. Also those pedophiles, who didn't commit any crime againts any child are stigmatized and punished for what they feel, not for their acts.
14. Do you think that sexual relationship with a pedophile could be good for children or is it everytime bad for them? And the other way - maybe in a sexual act of that type there are two tragedies: a tragedy of a child who is molested and the tragedy of the offender, who can’t otherwise satisfy his needs?
I think, pedophile should avoid any sexual contact or sexual relationship with child, because that kind of relationship can be harmful to the child.
15. “We’ll be able to avoid many abused children, if their relationship with their parents will be good (there would be no divorces etc. ). Wrong attitude or pedohilia shows up when the child is looking for love. And a child starts to make mistakes, and yet and adult person is getting involved” – said one of the Polish bishops. What do you think about these words?
I don't know the context of that words. We could avoid some abuses of children, if we provide some effective help for people, who feels attracted to children, and they feel it from the start of the puberty, at the age of 13. Today we do not work with those people at all, we do not work with them until it's too late - until they commit a crime. There is no literature, which could be helpful for people, who feels attracted to children. They do not know, what to do with that, and sometimes they think, that the only thing, that they can do, is commit sexual abuse. There are no positive role models for pedophiles. For e.g. I am a teacher on primary school, I didn't commit any crime against children, and I don't want to commit any crime. I like working with children, I am happy with them and I want only the good for them.
16. “Children are guilty of pedophilia because they provoke (...). There are many licentious 6-year-olds. The pleasure is, of course, if it is not associated with violence, because nobody likes being beaten - unless it is a masochist. But it's a pleasure for children and pedophile is a nice uncle” – said Jerzy Urban, an editor-in-chief of my newspaper “NIE”. How would you comment on that?
Children can't be guilty of pedophilia, because pedophilia isn't act, it is an erotic attraction which the person feels. Children are not guilty of abuse of them, adult person is the only responsible person in relation with the child.
At the end, http://www.pedofilie-info.cz is the only site in the Czech and Slovak Republic, which provide anonymous internet advice centre for pedophiles - advices are given by known Czech sexologists - MUDr. Antonín Brzek and MUDr. Želmíra Herrová. We are very pleased, that these sexologists are cooperating with us.
More information about our mission is available also in English language on our site in the Introduction section (http://www.pedofilie-info.cz/introduction/) and About Us section (http://www.pedofilie-info.cz/about-us/).
Yours sincerely, Petr Kasz, administrator
Please, if you will have some more questions, you can write them, I will try to aswer them quickly.
